9:11
I thought I had something to say… I think I feel better, physically, when I write, also when I exercise a lot. I’ve had a stomach ache for days. I kept trying to tell myself it was purely physical, purely about the dietary whiplash of Passover, or too much chewing gum with artificial sweetener, or harsh unfiltered water (which actually does hurt my stomach — I’m unusually sensitive to water). But once I considered that it might be emotional, that my body might be having the very hard time that my mind refuses to acknowledge, then I felt better.
Sometimes pain just wants to be noticed and acknowledged, a delivery signed for, even if you don’t open the package just yet. I suppose.
I am so fearful of feeling worse. I am so fearful of the devastation I’m trying not to recognize. My therapist (now a 3 day a week part of my life because if not now, really, when?) suggests that the devastation might not be so bad. What has gotten into her these days? Per my previous post, we are considering whether I’ve actually been quietly and unacknowledgedly (where’s the adverbial form when you need it?), devastated for years, and am just now… now that it’s fucking undeniable on these important and long-fragile fronts (I had typed most important, but most important is my relationship with Milo and with my body… so many parentheticals. I’m baaack.). Anyway, devastated for years and just now have the external wreckage to match the long-standing internal wreckage. And am finding it’s both worse and not as bad as I thought. Worse, in that my stomach hurts all the time, or did. Worse in that… what if there is not another job that’s good, and not another life that is good. Not as bad in that I can conceive that it’s not my fault, entirely, that sometimes things happen and all the good-behavior-as-incantation-and-magic-spell doesn’t ward it off. Not as bad in that there is still breath and yoga and laughter and sleep and friends now more than ever. Not as bad in that I see how strong I am, so I can also be weak. Not even sure what I mean by that last part but it makes sense, even though it sounds like something you’d find on an inspirational pinterest board.
I had something else to say… not sure where it went. I’ll come back tomorrow for it. Good to write again, even badly.
9:25