I’m inexplicably blue this evening. Could be a lack of sleep, could be that point in my cycle (although I’m usually prone to rage, not sadness. I prefer rage), could be any old thing. But these snippets make me happy.
From the New York Times science section on female friendships:
“You have to have somebody to hang onto,” Dr. Seyfarth said. “A friend gives you an element of predictability and certainty, and you can use that to buffer you against all the things you don’t have control over. There’s a biochemical component to this.”
A familiar friend calms and equilibrates, mops up the cortisol spills that can weaken the immune system, and in so doing may help lengthen life — in baboons, humans and other group-minded kinds. “Yes, having coffee with friends is good for you,” Dr. Silk said, “and we should all do it often.”
This blog is my coffee with friends — and particularly fun since I get to do all the talking!
From Robin Givhan, fashion critic extraordinaire, a piece about why she finds the focus on Beyonce’s motherhood dispiriting:
I know I’m taking this way beyond anything that Beyonce said. But her comment triggered a more general thought: Having a baby is a wondrous thing. And being a parent is a terribly difficult and important job. But it always makes me squeamish when people trot out the suggestion that a truly meaningful life is defined by motherhood/fatherhood. It’s simply a different kind of life than one without children.
(In the late 1990s Robin Givhan wrote a screed about white hose on adult women that remains one of my favorite fashion columns ever. I can’t find it online, sadly.)
From Allie at Wardrobe Oxygen, a great post about why sometimes, making a garment work just isn’t worth the effort:
The thing is… I don’t want to make it work. Making it work makes sense when you’re in the 11th hour of a Project Runway challenge. It makes sense if the only skirt in my closet is this one and I have an event to go to in an hour where the dress code is Skirts Only. It makes sense if it was a gift from my husband’s grandmother and she asked to see me in it for her 90th birthday party. There’s no other reason why I should try to make a garment work.
If a garment doesn’t work, it doesn’t deserve real estate in your closet.Stop trying to make it work with belts and tights and control garments and half-baked DIY projects. All that effort does is make the same not-quite-right garment not-quite-right, but now decked out with opaque tights, a skinny belt, and a weird band of fabric that sort of ruins the flow of the piece. This isn’t to say that with a bit of sewing skill one could turn trash into treasure. What I’m saying is if a piece isn’t right and you don’t have the creativity, skill, and desire to make it right… get rid of it.
I love her blog. She’s very sane and funny. Regular readers have noticed that I’m not writing Closet Archive posts anymore. I think this is why — even though I can make an effort to make something work, I usually don’t want to. I haven’t gotten rid of the closet archive items I’ve featured (except the one I dubbed “first clear failure”) — I’ll probably keep most of them for sentimental reasons. But after reading this post, I spent 30 minutes filling five giant shopping bags of stuff for Goodwill, and another bag for the consignment store.
I was going to stop at three, but then Allie posted this on Wardrobe Oxygen, and I found it so charming I almost forgot I was feeling droopy. It’s annotated pictures of a 1998 copy of Allure magazine. In 1998 I was dating Daniel, effectively living with him, working at the same place I work now (I quit in 2001 and came back in 2008), and wearing a lot of brown lipstick. It seems quite recent, in that I was all grown up then, or so I thought, with mutual funds and retirement savings and a real job. But oh so very long ago…