8:51
I usually start with a title, but caesura doesn’t mean what I thought it meant, and I’m stalled.
My joy machinery needs repair, the wifi connection to wonder and delight is sporadic. I am surrounded by people, and books, and work, and love, and tea, and wool socks and warm hats, and yet I imagine myself alone in a tent, out ahead of the rest and I’ve got some unspecified work to do, all by myself, for an unspecified time and an unspecified reason. Last night, I dreamed I was stranded in Columbus Ohio, with Milo (Ohio and Milo, that’s a nice sort-of rhyme), and not sure why I was there or what the agenda was, and how we would get home, and nothing was urgent but nor was it settled.
The title just arrived. There is insufficient care. I wish I cared less and others, perhaps, cared more (except my dear sweet assistant, who is 4 feet 11 inches of perpetual anxiety and epic vocal fry. I work her too hard and then wonder why she can’t lighten up. But I am generous, so generous with compliments). Cared more for me, and less about what I was doing, or rather not doing.
At work, I’ve just passed the point at which pent-up ability, native intelligence, new-found curiosity, and a lot of poorly remembered reading from the 1990s was sufficient. Now I’m truly at the frontier of my own abilities to be nimble, careful, curious, present in the specific and yet capably monitoring the field — that bifocalism that leadership requires. Surely it’s learnable, but at 46 learning hurts. There’s no lubricity. Wait — wordpress isn’t objecting. No way! Lubricity is a word?! Does it mean what I think it means? Oh, no. Not really. In the neighborhood, but not the living room. I meant there’s no juiciness in the joints, mental or physical. Just metal on metal and bone on bone.
I’m sure it will be great past this frontier. But I’d hoped for more regular installments of joy along the way. I remember how, after leaving school, I found it hard to describe my life to my parents. The punctuation marks were so far between, not like tests and semesters. This may say too much about my relationship with my parents. We love each other a lot, it’s just non verbal. We can talk about everything except what’s important. But it’s our own language, and we know what we mean, and mean to each other.
And at home… oh, worn out, worn down, worn through (any more prepositions that go with worn? worn in, yes, certainly. worn away? No, not yet. ) We love each other a lot, it’s just non … nonsensical? Well, yes, sometimes our relationship is nothing but nonsense, and not in the fun way. Non-negotiable? Yes, that too, except the negotiations about everything else seem endless, and I try to stop but sometimes I don’t know how else to fill the space and the expectation, and to get the simple information and space I need. I write this time and time again, but Daniel is a resister by temperament, and in the current circumstances the resistance is relentless. He is putting so much energy into doing so very little. And I’m the one who brings balance to the force, happiness be damned. I could care less, perhaps. The thought amuses me. If I care less, will someone else care more?
9:13. Don’t love it. Still too much inside my head.